Sometimes your woman can make guy friends who you just don't like. It's wise for them to stay away from them but they just don't get it. Like, it could be someone they recently met - someone they had no previous connection with (except for some vague one like they were in the same school or they kinda recognize each other from some place).
My problem is, I can't help it if you have already made a connection with someone before we met. But if you start making new, deeper and more intimate connections with other guys, then I'm sorry, I can't tolerate it. Because this is the person you're gonna go sobbing to if we break up or even have a fight, and this person will take full advantage of the situation - hell, he might as well be your next boyfriend.
The height of this problem would be if you throw away the cute little band that I gave you as a gift (and that too in front of me - and then ask me to empty the trash) - so what if it's not an expensive item - that is not the point of gifts - it's the emotional value. In contrast, if you have the emotional consciousness to store that blasted postcard he gave you, that chummy male friend of yours, then we have a problem. Because then, that means, you're not emotionally blind or cold-hearted. You are showing (and are capable of showing) warmth and love (affection?) for one person over the other (here it's some random dude over your boyfriend). And the fact that you do it so casually only makes it worse.
The complaint is simple - you don't show any love or affection towards me - so why should I be the one to end it - seeing that this is not working out? I am the one who is always showering you with love and affection. You're the one who is not in love, so you should be the one to end it.
And excuse me, but here's a simple idea if you don't know what to do with all the flowers I've given you - wait for them to dry, crush the flowers, throw the green parts, and then put them in that empty perfume bottle that you've got (the tiny one), and then keep it with you forever. Things like that build romance.
Labels: Love, Relationships, Second Priority, Trash
Feelings and emotions are the most complicated in this world - more so than science and technology because those are based on some rules at least. Out of feelings and emotions, love and affection take the lead. It's just so hard to tell the other's true intentions sometimes. You just wish you could take a peek inside their head; their heart.
It becomes even more difficult when an introvert finds love in the arms of an extrovert. Obviously, it's more difficult for the extrovert, who is used to sharing each emotion, sentiment, and every moment with the other. The introvert, when questioned about sharing their every emotion, sentiment or moment feels threatened at the loss of privacy.
In one such case where the girl was the extrovert, she took extreme measures to find out what was going on inside his heart - using his password to find out what exactly the person was telling his friends, or whether he was working on some prospects for when he will be done with her (and thus, if he has any intentions of ending it soon). Needless to say, she was paranoid.
But paranoia or not, she often found a lot of information that didn't settle well with her. Why is he talking to that other girl? They hardly even met; they're not even friends - why is he even chatting with her? Oh, so when he said he was out "with the boys", there were, in fact, girls present as well? Why? Why would he HIDE that information from me? Is there something I should know? Or maybe it was nothing and he didn't want to trouble me by telling me about it?
Of course on the guy's part, his girlfriend snooping around to find information on him by using his password that he had entrusted her - perhaps because he needed her to print something for him from his account or something like that - was something that didn't settle well with him. If she can't trust him enough, maybe she is not really into the relationship? Is she just looking for excuses to end this? In which case, it makes sense to go around partying with random girls and what not. Debatable.
Cause. And effect.
Which one is which? In a relationship, it's often hard to tell. And I don't just mean romantic relationships. It could be the same with your parents; or siblings; or just friends.
The question is: what are the ethical boundaries in a relationship?
If she cheats on him, is it okay for him to publish her lewd photographs?
If he lied to her, is it okay for her to slap him in public?
If she raises her voice in front of his friends, is it okay for him to raise his voice in front of her boss?
If he checks out every girl's behind, is it okay for her to have discreet male friends?
Labels: Complications, Extrovert, Introvert, Love, Relationships
